Correct Ways to Talk with Someone Who Has Lost a Loved One

You may have heard about this phrase, “Tongue has no bones”, but it can affect people in many ways, so try to check your words, and present them softly at different types of occasions. Here we will discuss the right words to use in a funeral or in front of the grieving person who has lost someone forever.

5 Ideas to Follow While Talking to a Bereaved

You need to behave, talk and maintain some etiquettes properly if you are visiting a funeral ceremony because your wrong words or behavior can hurt the feeling of your friend who is already in pain for the demised who is no more in his or her life. Take a look at a few ideas:

1.      Show Your Concern by Your Words

Your words should reflect natural empathy and love for the person who departed. It should not hurt the sentiment of the family of the bereaved. Don’t show off artificially that you are hurt. If you are really not hurt, then no need to prove that. Your behavior should reflect your compassion.

2.      Don’t Ask Details about the Death

The mourners have already lost their loved one, and he or she is in a painstaking condition. If you ask about the reasons or incident behind the death, then it may hurt their sentiment. If the bereft wants to share about the cause or the incident, then let the person narrate the incident by his or her own choice of words without forcing the person. Make him or her feel comfortable by your touch and polite words so that he or she can share his or her feelings with you.

3.      Maintain Silence for Some Moment before Sharing any Consoling Word

If you are feeling awkward and nervous, then no need to say anything. Sometimes silence can speak a thousand words by your behavior, your warm touch, and your sad facial expression. So, before presenting any word, you can share your compassion by remaining silent in front of the mourning family.

4.      Chant Bible or Say Some Religious Things during the Funeral

To balance the mental equilibrium, you can ask the permission of the bereaved family, and chant bible on the name of Holy Jesus. You can also highlight some religious sayings or quotes where the soul is given the main priority than the body. So, in that way, you can request the grieving family to be calm and pray for the peace of the heavenly soul.

5.      Talk about the Afterlife of the Departed Person

In various religious books, we have learned about the departure of a soul has an afterlife. It again takes birth, and we wish for the wellbeing, peace and happy rebirth of the soul. So, if you have such religious ideas, then you can discuss these things in the memorial service, and also tell the bereaved family not to cry because it is not the death of the pure soul; it is the death of the old body.

Final Thoughts

We hope the above-mentioned ideas will help you guide the grieving people, and consoling them with warm condolence message. These ways will absolutely not hurt the feeling of those people who are mourning for someone’s departure.